Love can get lost in translation.

Dana Wang, MD explores how difficulty identifying and expressing emotions can shape the way we communicate love, especially between parents and adult children.

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What is alexithymia?

Alexithymia describes difficulty identifying and putting feelings into words. A person may feel deeply yet struggle to recognize or express those emotions. In families, this can show up as major gaps between how they feel, what they mean to say, what they actually say, and what their loved ones hear.

How does it affect the way we interpret love?

Care may be expressed through practical actions, advice, worry, or sacrifice, while the person receiving it may experience pressure, criticism, or emotional distance. Emotional translation invites us to explore what are the feelings beneath the words, while acknowledging the impact of how those words land. Understanding someone’s intentions does not mean dismissing hurtful behavior. But it does give us more choices to respond differently.

Your childhood leaves clues

Take this free short quiz to explore how your early bonds shaped the way you relate today.

The answer offers insight to the emotional blueprint you grew up with. You will get Dr. Wang’s personal interpretation of the result from a blend of evidence based research study and her clinical expertise.

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